There you are, in a vulnerable, intimate moment with your partner. Or maybe you’re just hanging out and feeling good in their company. Suddenly, they insinuate that you’re fat or need to change your body.
It certainly happens often enough: A friend shared subtle examples of body-shaming she has experienced, such as romantic partners who admire bodies “over and over who have what you don’t—which could be a flat belly, big boobs, or anything.” Recently, someone I know shared that they were referred to as “fat” by their lover.
In my early 30s, I had my own experience with a romantic partner who said they preferred me “really thin.” Though I recognized it was a mean thing to say, especially given that they knew I had an eating disorder at the time, it still got under my skin, amplifying insecurities. This happened with my friend above, too. She shared that a lover “bluntly said I needed to lose some weight to be really sexy. I was 28. Yes, I went on a diet.” (Click for full article)
